Being Orgasmic
At some point, ‘An Orgasm’, having ‘An Orgasm’, achieving ‘An Orgasm’ became The Thing. This was the benchmark by which sexual experiences were measured.
And with this, we cut out enormous pleasure possibilities. We created a model of performance for sex, which often is not about pleasure, it's about having ‘an orgasm’. Intimacy, connection, even love, is often secondary in this. It created a space where the power dynamic has put pleasure in the hands, or other things, of someone who has to give you an orgasm, has to make you come. And if you don't then something is wrong.
It's ego sex, friction sex, judgement sex. It's very much doing sex. And in this, some people will do it better than others, and therefore achieve, that word again, greater satisfaction.
The phrases ‘sexual satisfaction’, ‘sexual gratification’, have become so linked to ‘an orgasm’. Let's take ‘an orgasm’ away for a while. Let's talk about being orgasmic. In the ocean of pleasure, which has limitless possibilities, an orgasm is but one stream. And maybe, just maybe, because for so long we've been convinced that a few contractions and a short-lived explosion is an orgasm, we've lost sight of the fact that there are other experiences that are orgasm and orgasmic. And let's talk about the fact that for so long so many women have been judged less than, lacking, even sexually incomplete, for not having ‘an orgasm’. And if their lovers can't make this happen then they're incomplete, incompetent, less than, ego-bashed men or women. When we make sex about orgasm, and it doesn't happen, we create stress. We know that stress is the greatest cause of illness, disease, dis-ease, and more.
Intimate, tender, connected, loving sex produces the most amazing chemicals in the body to create relaxation, health, and so many other healing states. It's one of our body's most amazing abilities as a self-regulating, self-healing organism.
When we're striving for an orgasm we're a little off the path. And when sex can be about intimacy, and it becomes about orgasm, we're a little off the path. When it becomes about being orgasmic, things change. Let's change the pattern. Let's put expectations aside, and I'm going to digress for a moment here.
How much of what we experience during sex is what we expect to feel rather than what we do feel? How much of our experience is based on the past rather than what is? Much of what we do is actually living a memory. When we do the same thing all the time, which is what so many of us do, have done for so long, our bodies follow the pattern, we don't connect with what we're really experiencing right now. Which means we're not really present. And more than that, when we're doing what we need to have ‘an orgasm’, we're not so present either, because we're focusing on what we have to do to get there. As if ‘There’ was everything. Let's change the pattern. Let's slow it down. Let's allow ourselves to feel. Let's learn to follow the sensations, allow them to develop, to deepen, to expand to see where they go, to follow them as they move through the body.
Let's stop and breathe. The pattern is big here. Our bodies know what we need to do, or not, to have ‘an orgasm’. It becomes a pattern. When we change that, when we begin exploring what orgasmic means, when we begin feeling different things, we have to understand that it takes some time to create new connections. In one way, ‘an orgasm’ has disconnected us from being orgasmic because it's all we focus on.
In this ocean of pleasure exploration, curiosity, allowing, may take time. We're creating new patterns, expanding our pleasure possibilities.
Be patient. ‘An Orgasm’ is often the end. Orgasmic is the beginning. It's becoming. And becoming is expansive. It's liberating. It's creative.
It's limitless. Out of love for yourself.
I wish you so much pleasure.
xoxo
Shyloh
Being a Professional Girlfriend:
There are many names for what I do e.g. Professional Girlfriend, Courtesan, Companion, Escort or Entertainer.
What I am most is an illusion as close to the truth and reality as it can get but with boundaries, privacy, discretion and most of all loyalty and respect!
Most people do NOT understand that this is a business like any other in which I am selling my time. It doesn't matter what you do with that time and it does not necessarily include sex at all.
Every person's needs are completely different and most people do not know what they need until I show them.
I'm an expert in my various fields, including this one.
I am a doctor of relief and a remedy to all who ails. I'm also a keeper of Secrets and a safe place to land where you can effortlessly breathe and just be yourself.
My world consists of peace and harmony and what I offer is tranquility and a gift. Take it. Its yours.
I make you capable of FREEDOM.
Yours always, in love and pleasure.
Xoxo ~ Shyloh
